When I was at your apartment the other day, looking at all of your impossibly cute things, I noticed a photo on your refrigerator. It was a photograph of you, from many years ago – you were young and smiling and your eyes were shut. Everyone else was cropped out of the picture. “What is this?” I inquired. “Motivation.” you replied, explaining that you were several pounds lighter in the photograph and you kept it on your refrigerator as a deterrent from misguided snacking.
I thought about this for a long time – I thought about this for hours after I left your house. Dearest friend – you are so beautiful. And do you know from whence your beauty shines forth? Your eyes! You have such a joyful spirit and it comes through in your laughing, expressive eyes every day. Now, I get it; you want to shed a few pounds. Fine – I don’t like that, but fine. But let me be clear that not for one moment – not for one moment EVER has your beauty derived from your waistline. Your beauty comes straight out from inside of you – it pours out of you with every laugh, with every furrowed brow; and every time the light catches your eyes the world gets a glimpse of the light inside of you. And it is beautiful.
So, if you must keep a photograph on the refrigerator for motivation – and I strongly discourage you thinking that you are anything less than perfect the way you are – then I implore you to please, please choose one where your eyes are open! Be reminded that your beauty shines OUT from those gorgeous eyes. Be reminded that you are made up of many things that make you more than just attractive – but that make you a complete and amazing individual.
When I visit my grandmother, I love looking at old photographs of her. I see her – her beautiful smiling eyes the same in youth as they are today. She starts the criticism “Oh gosh! I can’t believe I wore that!” but before she knows it, she too is rapt -unable to tear away from the memories held in those photos. It happens all too soon that life moves on – we change, our families change. Photographs are one of the ways we remember the past – one of the ways that we remember each other. They’re important, because you are important. So I guess what I’m saying to everyone is take pictures! Be in pictures! Smile! Open your eyes! Save your pictures, print your pictures, share your pictures (hire me to take your pictures!), and be remembered for the beautiful, perfect soul that you already are.